Periagoge
Scenario

When couples in open relationships have different communication needs

My partner and I opened our relationship six months ago and while we thought we'd prepared for jealousy, we didn't expect how differently we'd each process new attractions — they want to share everything and I need more privacy to figure out what I'm feeling. We're both trying to be honest but our styles of honesty seem to be hurting each other.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are learning that ethical non-monogamy requires not just agreement on boundaries, but compatible ways of processing and sharing their experiences.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Eros — Greek desire and its wisdom?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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