My partner and I realized that we each learned to love by watching our parents sacrifice everything for each other, and now we're both constantly trying to out-sacrifice the other person instead of just enjoying our relationship. We recognize it's become a problem but neither of us knows how to receive care without immediately trying to give more back.
More people experience this than they realize.
Love learned as endless giving can become a competition that exhausts the very relationship it means to serve.
“Where Are You with Your Parents' Relationship and How It Shaped Yours?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.