My partner keeps reassuring me that I'm enough, that they love me as I am, but I can feel how much energy it takes them to convince me and I'm starting to hate myself for needing so much proof. We're both exhausted by my insecurity but I don't know how to stop asking for validation without feeling completely untethered.
More people experience this than they realize.
The very act of seeking validation from a partner can create shame that undermines the worth being sought.
“Where Are You with Self-Worth in Relationship Context?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.