My partner keeps reassuring me that I'm enough, that they love me as I am, but I can feel how much energy it takes them to convince me and I'm starting to hate myself for needing so much proof. We're both exhausted by my insecurity but I don't know how to stop asking for validation without feeling completely untethered.
More people experience this than they realize.
The very act of seeking validation from a partner can create shame that undermines the worth being sought.
“Where Are You with Self-Worth in Relationship Context?”
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