My partner processes conflict by talking it through immediately and I need space to think first, so every disagreement becomes a fight about how we fight. We both end up feeling unheard — they think I'm shutting them out and I feel overwhelmed by the pressure to respond before I'm ready.
More people experience this than they realize.
Your natural rhythms for processing difficulty are creating a secondary wound around the original issue.
“Where Are You with Communication With a Partner?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.