My sister and I are both in serious relationships now and we're realizing we learned completely different lessons about what love should look like from the same chaotic household. I'm hypervigilant about conflict and she's hypervigilant about abandonment, and it's creating tension between us and our partners when we're all together.
More people experience this than they realize.
You survived the same family differently, and now those adaptations are creating unexpected friction in your adult relationships.
“Where Are You with Family-of-origin patterns in adult love?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.