My sister and I are fighting about whether our brother's suicide was 'out of nowhere' or if we should have seen it coming, and it's tearing our family apart because she needs to believe there were warning signs while I need to accept that we couldn't have known. We can't even plan the memorial service together.
More people experience this than they realize.
Siblings are discovering that their need to make meaning from the same devastating event requires contradictory narratives about predictability and responsibility.
“Where Are You with Sudden loss vs. expected loss?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.