My sister and I are going through our dad's things six months after he passed, and we keep getting stuck because she wants to focus on how lucky we were to have him while I need to process how angry I still am about things that happened when we were kids. We both know we're right, but we can't seem to move forward together.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're both trying to honor the fullness of your relationship with your father, but your different emotional truths feel incompatible rather than complementary.
“Where Are You with Grief and gratitude — the paradox?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.