My sister and I both inherited our mother's complicated relationship with love and we keep enabling each other's worst romantic choices while calling it support. We'll spend hours analyzing why her latest guy is wrong for her or why mine won't commit, but we never ask the harder question of why we keep choosing these situations.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're caught in a dynamic where familial love becomes a way of avoiding the deeper work of examining your romantic choices.
“Where Are You with The examined love life — what it means to love well?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.