My sister and I both loved our mom deeply but she was also cruel to both of us in different ways, and now that she's been gone a year we can't talk about her without one of us defending her and the other getting angry, like we're grieving completely different people.
More people experience this than they realize.
The same person can leave behind completely different griefs, making shared love feel impossible.
“Where Are You with What we learn from grief about love?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.