My sister and I both talk to our mom who died two years ago but in completely different ways — I feel her presence when I'm cooking her recipes and gardening, while my sister visits the grave weekly and keeps all mom's things exactly as they were. We've never talked about this and I think we each worry the other person thinks our way of staying connected is wrong.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who love the same departed soul are discovering that grief has its own languages, and the silence between different forms of devotion can feel like judgment.
“Where Are You with Continuing bonds — ongoing relationship with the deceased?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.