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Scenario

When siblings have different ways of maintaining connection with a deceased parent

My sister and I both talk to our mom who died two years ago but in completely different ways — I feel her presence when I'm cooking her recipes and gardening, while my sister visits the grave weekly and keeps all mom's things exactly as they were. We've never talked about this and I think we each worry the other person thinks our way of staying connected is wrong.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people who love the same departed soul are discovering that grief has its own languages, and the silence between different forms of devotion can feel like judgment.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Continuing bonds — ongoing relationship with the deceased?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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