My sister and I both want to help our coworker whose son was killed in Afghanistan, but she keeps insisting he 'died for freedom' while I think that kind of statement just adds pressure. We can't figure out whether we're comforting her or making her grief more complicated.
More people experience this than they realize.
Different beliefs about meaning-making in loss can turn shared support into competing narratives that burden the griever.
“Where Are You with What not to say to a grieving person?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.