My sister and I have been planning our father's memorial garden for months but we keep hitting the same wall — she wants it to be this peaceful, private space while I want it to celebrate how social and welcoming he was, and every conversation about it ends with one of us feeling like the other doesn't really understand who he was.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who loved the same person are discovering that their memories and ways of honoring feel incompatible, making them question whether they knew their father — or each other — as well as they thought.
“Where Are You with Memorial practices and keeping memory alive?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.