My sister and I inherited our grandmother's house together and we both want to keep it in the family, but we can't agree on anything about how to handle it and every conversation ends with one of us crying about what Grandma would have wanted. We're turning her memory into a weapon against each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
The desire to honor someone's memory has become a way to avoid negotiating your own different needs and visions.
“Where Are You with Disenfranchised grief — when loss isn't recognized?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.