My sister and I reconciled after our fight about dad's funeral arrangements, but family gatherings are still tense because we're both performing being okay for everyone else while tiptoeing around each other. The rest of the family keeps commenting on how 'good' we're being, but this artificial peace feels worse than the original conflict.
More people experience this than they realize.
The family system's investment in the reconciliation creates pressure to perform healing rather than actually experience it, trapping both parties in a theater of wellness.
“Where Are You with Repair after conflict?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.