My sister and I used to cry together every year on the anniversary of our mom's death, but now fifteen years later she says it feels 'unhealthy' to keep marking it while I still need that ritual, and we're both hurt that the other person has changed. We don't know how to honor both where we've each landed in our grief without abandoning each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who once shared a grief are discovering that healing doesn't happen in parallel, and their diverging needs feel like betrayal.
“Where Are You with How grief changes over years and decades?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.