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Scenario

When siblings grieve differently after many years

My sister and I used to cry together every year on the anniversary of our mom's death, but now fifteen years later she says it feels 'unhealthy' to keep marking it while I still need that ritual, and we're both hurt that the other person has changed. We don't know how to honor both where we've each landed in our grief without abandoning each other.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people who once shared a grief are discovering that healing doesn't happen in parallel, and their diverging needs feel like betrayal.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with How grief changes over years and decades?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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