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Scenario

When families disagree about whether steady devotion counts as romantic love

My sister has been in this relationship for five years where her boyfriend is incredibly devoted and attentive but she keeps saying she doesn't feel 'in love' with him the way she thinks she should. Our whole family loves him and keeps telling her that steady love is better than passion, but she's miserable and I don't know if we're giving her terrible advice or if she's chasing something that doesn't exist.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A group is split between those who see committed care as love itself and those who believe romantic love requires something more transcendent.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Romantic love — what it is and what it isn't?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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