My son came out to us six months after my mother died and I realize I spent years worrying about the wrong things for his future — all the conventional milestones that don't matter — while missing what actually matters to him about building a life worth living. We're both grieving different versions of his future and I don't know how to tell him I'm proud of who he is while also processing my own loss of assumptions.
More people experience this than they realize.
One person's authentic disclosure is requiring another to grieve the gap between their protective instincts and their actual understanding.
“Where Are You with What grief reveals about what matters?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.