My teenage daughter and I are both grieving her dad's death but she keeps saying I don't understand because I got to be married to him and she only got to be his kid, and I keep wanting to tell her that being his widow doesn't make this easier but I don't know how to honor that we lost different versions of the same person. We're competing over who has the right to be more devastated.
More people experience this than they realize.
Different relationships to the same beloved person can create a painful contest over whose loss is most legitimate.
“Where Are You with What grief reveals about what matters?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.