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Scenario

How parents' intimacy patterns affect your marriage

My wife and I are in therapy working on intimacy issues and we've realized that my parents modeled emotional distance as safety while hers modeled enmeshment as love. Neither of us knows what healthy closeness actually looks like and we're afraid to experiment because both our templates feel dangerous.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two sets of inherited fears about closeness are creating a shared paralysis around the very intimacy you both want.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Your Parents' Relationship and How It Shaped Yours?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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