My wife and I are in therapy working on intimacy issues and we've realized that my parents modeled emotional distance as safety while hers modeled enmeshment as love. Neither of us knows what healthy closeness actually looks like and we're afraid to experiment because both our templates feel dangerous.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two sets of inherited fears about closeness are creating a shared paralysis around the very intimacy you both want.
“Where Are You with Your Parents' Relationship and How It Shaped Yours?”
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