My wife and I are three days into dealing with my mother's sudden death and we're discovering how differently we think about family obligation — she thinks I should take charge of everything because I'm the oldest son, but I'm falling apart and need her help, not her expectations. We've never navigated anything this intense and I can feel us both getting resentful when we should be supporting each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
Crisis reveals unexamined assumptions about roles and support that can fracture the very relationship that needs to hold steady.
“Where Are You with Death of a loved one — the immediate experience?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.