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Scenario

When couples face shifting desires around family planning during fertility struggles

My wife and I both want children desperately, but we've been trying for two years with no success and now we're discovering that our desires are pulling in different directions - she wants to pursue IVF aggressively while I'm starting to wonder about adoption, and neither of us knows how to talk about changing course without it feeling like betrayal. We're both grieving the easy pregnancy we thought we'd have while trying to stay connected about what we actually want now.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Your shared longing for children is evolving into different paths forward, requiring you to grieve one vision while staying open to others.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Desire and its changes over time?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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