My wife and I both want children desperately, but we've been trying for two years with no success and now we're discovering that our desires are pulling in different directions - she wants to pursue IVF aggressively while I'm starting to wonder about adoption, and neither of us knows how to talk about changing course without it feeling like betrayal. We're both grieving the easy pregnancy we thought we'd have while trying to stay connected about what we actually want now.
More people experience this than they realize.
Your shared longing for children is evolving into different paths forward, requiring you to grieve one vision while staying open to others.
“Where Are You with Desire and its changes over time?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.