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Scenario

When couples struggle with multigenerational duty and marital intimacy

My wife and I moved in with her aging parents to help care for them, and we thought we were doing the right thing but now our marriage feels like it's disappearing under the weight of everyone's needs. She says I'm not grateful enough for her parents' sacrifices, I say she's not protecting our relationship, but we're both just drowning in trying to love everyone properly.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The attempt to fulfill familial obligations is threatening the very relationship that motivated those choices in the first place.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Confucian Partnership Ethics — Duty and Love?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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