My wife and I separated six months ago and we're both seeing the same couples therapist individually now, but we haven't decided if we're working toward reconciliation or a healthier divorce. Every session feels like we're preparing for two different outcomes and I don't know if we're healing together or just learning to hurt each other less efficiently.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are doing the work of repair while suspended between hope and acceptance, unable to name whether they're building a bridge back to each other or a gentler way to say goodbye.
“Where Are You with Divorce and Its Emotional Aftermath?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.