Our adult children are angry with me and my husband because we're handling our son's sudden death by talking about all the signs we missed, and they think we're rewriting history instead of accepting that some things can't be predicted. They say we're making his death about our guilt instead of about him.
More people experience this than they realize.
Parents and their surviving children are battling over whether the search for missed warning signs is a necessary part of meaning-making or a harmful denial of randomness and loss of control.
“Where Are You with Sudden loss vs. expected loss?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.