Our best friend died by suicide three weeks ago and my husband keeps saying he wishes we had seen it coming, that there must have been signs, while I keep thinking that maybe the shock was a mercy — that not knowing protected us from months of helpless worry. We're both drowning but in completely opposite ways and I don't know how to reach him.
More people experience this than they realize.
The very mechanisms each partner uses to make meaning from sudden loss are creating isolation within the marriage.
“Where Are You with Sudden loss vs. expected loss?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.