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Scenario

When couples process unexpected loss through different lenses of protection

Our best friend died by suicide three weeks ago and my husband keeps saying he wishes we had seen it coming, that there must have been signs, while I keep thinking that maybe the shock was a mercy — that not knowing protected us from months of helpless worry. We're both drowning but in completely opposite ways and I don't know how to reach him.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The very mechanisms each partner uses to make meaning from sudden loss are creating isolation within the marriage.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Sudden loss vs. expected loss?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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