Our family has this pattern where we all talk around my dad's drinking but never to him about it, and it's creating this weird dynamic where we're all managing his problem together without him. My mom and sister and I text constantly about it but we've never actually had a real conversation about what we're doing.
More people experience this than they realize.
A group unconsciously organizes itself around one person's problem, becoming complicit in the very thing they're trying to solve.
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If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.