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When siblings clash during shloshim while trying to honor their father

Our family is halfway through shloshim for my father and my siblings and I keep clashing over everything — who's doing what for the unveiling, whether mom should be dating again, how to handle dad's things — and I feel like we're failing him by fighting when we should be unified in grief.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A family bound by loss finds that grief amplifies old dynamics and creates new conflicts, making them question whether their discord dishonors the very person they're trying to mourn together.

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“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”

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