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Scenario

When siblings clash during shloshim while trying to honor their father

Our family is halfway through shloshim for my father and my siblings and I keep clashing over everything — who's doing what for the unveiling, whether mom should be dating again, how to handle dad's things — and I feel like we're failing him by fighting when we should be unified in grief.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A family bound by loss finds that grief amplifies old dynamics and creates new conflicts, making them question whether their discord dishonors the very person they're trying to mourn together.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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