Our friend group has always prided itself on being there for each other through everything, but lately I've noticed we've gotten really good at the dramatic stuff — breakups, job losses, family crises — and really bad at the quieter, ongoing hesed. Like, we show up for the emergency but we don't really see each other in the everyday faithfulness that actually sustains people. I think we're mistaking intensity for intimacy and I don't know how to bring this up without sounding like I'm criticizing how we love each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're recognizing that your community has confused dramatic gestures with the quiet, consistent presence that true hesed requires.
“Where Are You with Hesed — Hebrew covenantal loving-kindness?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.