Our friend group has been trying to support each other since we lost Jake, but some of us want to keep including him in conversations and others feel like we need to start moving forward, and now our grief gatherings feel more like negotiations than comfort. We all loved him but we're starting to hurt each other in trying to honor that love.
More people experience this than they realize.
A circle of care has become a circle of conflict, as people who share the same loss discover their ways of holding it feel mutually threatening.
“Where Are You with The death of a child — the unnatural loss?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.