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Scenario

How friend groups navigate romantic idealization and comparison

Our friend group has this running joke about how Sarah and James are 'relationship goals' — we all idealize their romance and constantly compare our own relationships to theirs. But I think it's actually making us all feel worse about our own love lives and putting weird pressure on them too.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Collective idealization of one couple is distorting everyone's understanding of love and creating hidden resentments.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Courtly Love & Idealization?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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