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Scenario

When friend groups avoid conflict to preserve unity

Our friend group has this unspoken rule that we all stay friends with everyone even when people hurt each other, and it's created this exhausting dynamic where we enable bad behavior because confronting it might break up the group. We've been together for ten years and I love these people, but I'm realizing we don't actually know how to love each other well when love requires difficult conversations.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The desire to maintain group harmony can become a form of emotional cowardice that prevents the deeper intimacy that comes through working things out.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Friendship as love?”

Peri

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