Our friend group lost Sarah in a car accident six months ago and we all have things we wish we'd told her, but whenever we try to share those regrets with each other it turns into this awful comparison of who loved her more or who was a better friend. We're making our grief competitive when what we really want is to honor her memory together and maybe forgive ourselves.
More people experience this than they realize.
Shared regret has become a contest of suffering rather than a doorway to collective healing.
“Where Are You with Grief and regret — what we wish we'd said?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.