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Scenario

When a friend's sobriety challenges the whole group dynamic

Our friend group used to be inseparable but since Jake got sober six months ago, half of us don't know how to hang out anymore and the other half think we should just act normal, and Jake is caught in the middle trying to reassure everyone that he's okay when maybe we should be asking ourselves why we can't imagine fun without drinking.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

One person's growth is revealing how much the group's connection was built on shared avoidance rather than genuine intimacy.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief for lost relationships — ambiguous loss of divorce?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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