Our grief support group is fracturing because those of us who lost people suddenly feel like the people who had time to say goodbye don't understand our specific trauma, while they feel like we're dismissing their months or years of anticipatory grief. We're supposed to be helping each other but we're creating hierarchies of suffering instead.
More people experience this than they realize.
People united by the common fact of loss are discovering that the circumstances of their losses create divisions that threaten the very community designed to hold them.
“Where Are You with Sudden loss vs. expected loss?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.