Our nephew moved in with us after his mom died and my sister and I keep stepping on each other trying to help him - she wants to give him space to process and I want to make sure he's not isolating, and meanwhile he's caught between our different approaches to his grief. We all loved his mother and we're all hurting, but we're not helping him heal.
More people experience this than they realize.
Multiple adults grieving the same loss are unconsciously competing in their care for a bereaved child, creating additional instability when stability is what's most needed.
“Where Are You with Children and grief — supporting young people?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.