We've been best friends for fifteen years and I'm realizing I've been the one who always reaches out, always plans things, always asks how they're doing. I'm exhausted but I also don't know who we are if I stop being the one who holds us together.
More people experience this than they realize.
The architecture of a relationship can become so established that changing it feels like losing the relationship itself.
“Where Are You with Cumulative grief — multiple losses?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.