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When couples realize their relationship has become mutually emotionally harmful

We've been married for twelve years and we both finally admit that our relationship has become emotionally abusive - not just him to me, but the way we tear each other down when we fight. Our kids are starting to notice and we don't know if we should separate or if there's a way to actually change these patterns we've built.

Mira
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Sometimes abuse isn't a clear perpetrator and victim but a toxic system both people have learned to sustain.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Emotional abuse in relationships?”

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