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Scenario

When You Fall in Love with Who You Become

After my affair ended, I realized I was never really in love with him but with the version of myself I became in his presence.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The beloved served as a mirror for an idealized self rather than being genuinely seen or known.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Courtly Love & Idealization?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.