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When grief rituals feel performative rather than healing

Every anniversary and holiday my grief support group does special ceremonies but they make me feel worse and I don't know how to opt out without seeming ungrateful.

Mira
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The institutionalization of mourning can transform authentic remembrance into obligation, forcing grievers to perform their pain on schedule.

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