Periagoge
Scenario

How to navigate communal mourning for someone who caused you harm

I am estranged from my abusive brother but he died in an accident, and our family expects me to participate in the mourning as if we were close, and I do not know how to grieve someone who hurt me.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Traditional expectations of family solidarity can erase the complexity of difficult relationships.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with African grief traditions — communal mourning?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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