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Scenario

When being needed feels safer than being wanted

I keep choosing partners who need me more than they want me because being needed feels safer than being desired.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The equation of worth with utility learned in childhood makes desire feel dangerous and need feel like security.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Family-of-origin patterns in adult love?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.