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Scenario

When childhood self-preservation damages adult relationships

My brother was the family scapegoat growing up and I never defended him because I was afraid of becoming the target myself, and now our relationship feels built on that betrayal.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The survival strategies that protected us as children can become sources of shame that contaminate our adult connections.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief and regret — what we wish we'd said?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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