Periagoge
Scenario

When grief doesn't show up the way your family expects it to

My grandmother died three weeks ago and my family expects me to wail and throw myself on the ground like the other women, but I feel numb and empty and I am afraid they think I did not love her enough.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The heart grieves in its own rhythm, but communal traditions demand synchronized sorrow.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with African grief traditions — communal mourning?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.