My mother died and I don't want to say kaddish because she was abusive and I feel like everyone expects me to suddenly forgive her because she's dead.
More people experience this than they realize.
Death doesn't automatically transform complicated relationships into simple grief.
“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.