My mother-in-law died and I am expected to help organize her forty-day ceremony, but I secretly resented her and feel like a hypocrite participating in mourning rituals.
More people experience this than they realize.
Social expectations of grief performance become particularly painful when the relationship with the deceased was complicated or strained.
“Where Are You with Islamic mourning — the forty-day tradition?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.