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Scenario

When apologies get derailed by counter-accusations

My partner apologized for hurting me but then said I hurt them too and we never actually talked about what they did wrong because the conversation became about my reactions instead.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The deflection of accountability disguised as mutual responsibility prevents the very healing that genuine remorse could provide.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Forgiveness in intimate relationships?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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