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When therapy after infidelity feels like victim blaming

My wife cheated and we're in couples therapy but the therapist keeps asking me what I contributed to the affair and it makes me want to scream.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The search for mutual responsibility can become another site of injury when timing and context are ignored.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Infidelity — all perspectives?”

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