My wife died and I am supposed to sleep on the floor for forty days as part of our mourning tradition, but I am seventy-three with arthritis and I physically cannot do it anymore.
More people experience this than they realize.
Physical frailty can create guilt when the spirit is willing but the flesh cannot perform prescribed rituals.
“Where Are You with African grief traditions — communal mourning?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.