My partner and I bought this house partly for the massive oak in the backyard but now the city says it's diseased and has to come down, and we're fighting about whether to spend $15,000 trying to save it or just let them take it. We used to agree on everything about this place and now we can't even talk about the tree without it becoming about money and priorities and who cares more about what.
More people experience this than they realize.
The tree has become a proxy for deeper questions about shared values and financial priorities that the couple hasn't learned to navigate playfully.
“Where Are You with Trees — what we owe them?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.