My partner and I discovered we have completely different relationships to indulgence — they feel guilty about any pleasure that costs money or time, while I feel guilty about pleasure that seems 'unproductive,' and we've somehow created a household where we police each other's joy. Neither of us means to but we keep accidentally shaming each other for the ways we try to enjoy life.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two different systems of pleasure-regulation are creating mutual inhibition instead of expanded possibility.
“Where Are You with Pleasure and its examined life?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.